For the past few months, I’ve been feeling so good about myself and everything that has been going on for me the good and even the bad (because it’s not so bad). Well, the other night I was invited to a private dinner for a popular hair brand for Essence Festival. I was soo excited! I got dressed, did my hair, and went to pick up a friend. Once there I immediately became insecure..my hair is so frizzy..is this romper too short..I’m the smallest blogger here. I literally spoke negativity upon myself without saying a word…until I did.
My friend wanted to take pictures and I wanted to as well, but MY HAIR. I spoke it existence. Over and Over to my friend I said my hair is looking horrible right now and I hate how it looks. Anytime I’d say this she would say, “Kineatra it looks perfect, stop it!” I didn’t stop. We were at this beautiful dinner among famous people and top bloggers in the industry, and I was only thinking about how my hair looked.I zeroed in on the negative. The smallest thing that I thought was a distraction and ended up making an excuse because I didn’t feel like I was measuring up in some sort of way.
“Have realistic expectations for yourself before you become down on yourself. “
The funny thing is that anytime that anyone saw me they complimented me not only on my hair but what I was wearing. I wasn’t enjoying the moment for what it was, because I was too busy worried about a little hair that was out of place. It’s easier to accept criticism than embrace the positive because you may feel that’s what someone else is seeing first.
I’ve been doing so good with speaking positively and NOT being so hard on myself, but we all have setbacks. We must allow ourselves some grace. You’ll have those moments of focusing on the smallest thing but remember that it’s okay to not be perfect. It’s okay to work on embracing the journey and not zeroing in on every flaw. We all have flaws and insecurities from time to time, but don’t let it take it you of the moment. Don’t let your negative thoughts about yourself distract you from the bigger picture and the successful journey that you’re on. Girl you bomb, believe it!
“Trust the wait. Embrace the uncertainty. Enjoy the beauty of becoming. When nothing is certain, anything is possible.”
Kineatra Jones, MS founder & editor of NaturallyNex.com. She has a passion for educating women on all things natural: hair, beauty, and life. NaturallyNex.com was created in August 2015 to share and connect with women who have a passion for natural hair and beauty. Overtime NaturallyNex has evolved into a beauty, lifestyle, and entertainment blog. Kineatra is focused on discussing natural hair, beauty, fashion, and travel as well as providing encouragement to others.
