Waiting for people to Apologize

Think of the last time someone hurt your feelings. Did you let them know that your feelings were hurt, if so, did they apologize? I can remember a time where I would live for the words, “I’m sorry” not because I needed to hear it out someone’s mouth but simply because someone was wrong other than myself (so entitled, huh?). 
   

feeling regret, compunction, sympathy, pity, etc.: to be sorry to leave one’s friends; to be sorry for a remark; to be sorry for someone in trouble. regrettable or deplorable; unfortunate; tragic: a sorry situation; to come to a sorry end (dictionary.com)

I knew they wronged me and the anticipation of hearing ” I’m sorry” would somehow give me short-lived gratification. Why do we wait for apologies and when they don’t occur we’re upset? I still cannot fully answer this question, but I do know this:  I’ve stopped looking. 

I no longer look for anyone to apologize to me. I get it (yes, we all make mistakes) but we have to stop expecting people to owe us an apology for the wrongs they do. They may not know any better, and no that doesn’t mean it’s any less right but now you know who that person truly is, so isn’t that the point? It’s our responsibility to take what they’re showing us and keep it moving.

Maybe a non-apology is an apology. Stay with me here, maybe we get offended too easily and someone says “I’m sorry that you feel that way.” Is that an apology or is that a non-apology apology? lol  All I’m saying is that there’s levels to this, just like with anyone else but I think we’re wrong when we expect anything from someone else.   This is a hard lesson but an apology or putting a band-aid on ailment doesn’t heal——what heals is self-awareness. 

You got this! If you’ve wrong somebody apologize if need be but if someone has wronged you stop looking for remorse. You’ll be disappointed every time.